The way you carry yourself: Look Pop-up instead of Pop-down

Have you ever looked at someone and said, you know she is younger than me, dismayed by how they are looking? Or sometimes you may make statements like "since she got pregnant, she look pop down." There are other times, when people after being married for a little, carry themselves in such a way that is saying...the world is upon my shoulders, I am too old now,  looking nice is for young people.

In Jamaica, there is something that always amazed me. Even though I may not agree with the way of dressing all the time, the people here focus on their hair, their nails and their clothes. It does not matter what social class or status; the market vendor, the person selling phone cards, the unemployed, the old, the young, the rich, the poor all focus on their looks. Even when their fashion may be out of this world or they might not have gotten it right, their objective is to look good.

Is their a point in your life where you should stop look great? Should marriage, kids, bills or abuse prevent you from looking great? Sometimes it seem to me that persons only want to look good when they are slim and trim with the flat tummy, but as soon as they have a child or two and add some weight that is hard to lose, they give up. Is looking great only for the slim and trim? Why you should look older than the person who taught you in school? And yes this happens. So my suggestions:

• Have a ME day: A day for yourself where you pamper yourself in spite of the pressures of life. Even if you have to put away a special savings for your Me day. 
• Walk with your head held high, Literally! Too often I see people walking, head down. The world might be on your shoulders, but everyone doesn't have to know it.
• Look straight in that mirror and speak positively into your life especially before you leave the house. I do this from time to time and I have found that it has helped to build my self confidence and self esteem. Look, smile and talk into that mirror, but say only positive things whether or not you believe them.
• Purchase clothes that compliment your body type and wear them well. You still have it.
• Go out and have fun whether by yourself, with your girls or with your spouse. This will surely keep you alive and happy. Don't let the kids take over your life so much so that there is no YOU. Remember you are also a role model and children watch and learn from their parents.

I am sure there are many more tips that can be suggested, but remember life does not end with kids or marriage. In fact, it has really just begun....