Sunday 20 May 2012
Dress to sick stomach?
In coming out of the office of my phsyiotherapist, there was a mature, stoutish lady outside talking to a gentleman. In passing by, I got to hear a part of her statement to the gentleman..."me wear way me want, yo na see the young gal dem ah wear shorter than this" To translate for those who do not understand the dialect of the Caribbean, she was stating that she would wear any sort of clothes she wanted and she was asking the gentleman if he did not recognise that the young girls wear much shorter clothes than what she had on. I take a look at her and I see much that is wrong with the way people think.
Here was a mature lady, in her 40s, with so much weight that her thighs were shaking and 'pack up' with cellulite yet she had on a short pants that fell right below her bottom and she believe that she was justified in wearing what she wanted because the younger generation was wearing shorter. I thought madame, you are not in the young people category and you dont have to body to accommodate that type of clothes. Now it is not the first time I hear people say to others, wear what you want, you are not old or they spoke as if wearing whatever you please demonstrate a level of self confidence.
I dont believe that slim people should dress better than fat people or young people better than older ones, but I do believe in these things. Firstly, dress your age. There are certain clothes out there with young people written all over them and secondly, dress to complement you shape and body type. There are some clothes that do not belong to you. Do not depend on people to rate you. There are some persons who are quick to like your photo, tell you how sexy/hot you look, but behind your back they crucify you and laugh at you. Thirdly, looking good has nothing to do with exposing your body. You know you belly is big, what are you doing in a belly breaker? I often look at clothes and I would admire them, but not every clothes that looks good in my eyes I are for me. I might say things like that will fit 'Mary' well or I wish that can fit me, but I know even if it looks great on the mannequin, it wouldn't look as nice on me because my body structure is different. I heard this statement made by a male once concerning a person dressing in a clothes that do not suit them, " This sick my stomach...Make me want to suck a mint." Do not let it be said about you. You can be in a very long skirt that sweep the ground and still look great.
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So Jazzy if she was 40 and slim she could wear shorts? Or if she is 15 and slim could she wear shorts? Just how you can look great in a skirt that sweeps the floor you can also look great in a shorts that sweeps your thighs. What happened to FREEDOM to dress as you are inspired? Who dictates what looks great and what I feel great in? Looking good has just as little to do with exposing your body as it has to do with not exposing your body do you agree? Its all about style and modesty is it not? Does it sick your stomach when you see young ladies dressed head to bottom in the frompiest looking frock, a loose blouse with no form and hardly any style because Christian principles dictate modesty? Im sure you dont because you unlike other Christians I know have great style. You show that Christians can be Christians and still dress nicely, fix their hair and be stylish.
ReplyDeleteOhh darling, I am not saying that at all. I am saying wear things that compliment your body. Remember I stated that I dont think young should look better than old or slim better than fat. I also used the long skirt as merely an example that you can look good in that. Looking great is not an issue, but are you telling me that you have never ever walk the street and say, what that person have on is not for them? I believe in dressing modestly, but if you take the example I give with the woman in the shorts and her statement about what young people wear, don't you think the idea of she comparing herself with a young person is preposterous? I have seen a lot of young people in shorts and even though I might not agree with them exposing themselves, I cannot say that they look bad. We might talk about who determines what looks good from who don't but look at the world we are live in...Isn't it some fashion designers, movie stars, artists etc that determines what some of thinks look great? Are you telling me that even though you have the freedom to dress as you are inspired, you should just wear anything you want, even though it doesnt compliment your body type? I feel it hard to believe that it is only me who observe what people wear and think at time that dress, short etc is not for them. I looked again at that woman in the short and maybe of a different body type she would have looked good. I have seen older persons in shorts that look great, but I have also seen clothes that have young people or teenagers write up all over it and that in no way means I am supporting dressing that are not modest, it simply means that the designer never had an old person in his/her mind when they were making that piece of clothing. I may be wrong but it is just my opinion.
DeleteI figure nowadays people have freedom to do anything and everything within the confines of the law, not necessarily morality. We are hardly accountable for how we dress; unless we are going to a government institution or to a restaurant with a strict dress code. It seems we have evolved to a freedom of expression through dress- thankfully. However for some this evolution is more sexual expression of self- so they dress in less. Being more liberal now... overexposure for some is no longer an attempt to be promiscuous or provocative but simply to express self. However I figure its an issue to ignore now. Gone are the days when we could say 'girls dress this way to attract men'. Fully clothed or half naked it seems girls will attract men. For the adults...the struggle to stay young forces many to dress in clothing that seems more appropriate for a younger generation. Or maybe they feel sexy in their own skin. But really people dress to suit their sense of style, their religion, their social class, their income...So its best we turn more blind eyes to styles of dressing now and simply accept that for balance some people have to be outlandish, stylish, overly sexual and too modest. But Jazzy answer me this; if one is not guided by any religion why is there a need to cover up? Shouldn't covering up be guided by your own moral code, comfort and your daily destination? I am almost convinced its a non-issue, nothing to have a conniption about. But alas, that may be too extreme a point of view.
DeleteI think you have just brought up an interesting point in your introductory sentence...people can do anything and everything within the confines of the law and that is probably the problem that is messing up society. We are no longer govern by norms and values, right and wrong. You have taken on an attitude that says 'once you are not breaking the law, then what is wrong? Do what you want' Even parents have been doing that with their kids. You are right that whether fully clothed or half-naked, men will be attracted to women, but I can guarantee you that its a different type of man. It seems as though your comments should have been placed under my topic "Do we dress to impress?" but it is ok. Your final comments about if anyone is not guided by a religion why cover etc...Based on what I was discussing here, I was not preaching religion and modest dress, I was stating dress according to your body type. What does that mean? I am living in Jamaica for a while and I see some things. It seems as though some people walked into a store, know that they are extra large, choose a small and then squeeze themselves in it. On the issues of morality, seeing that you have brought it up...You are telling me that if you have a daughter, you have no problem with her wearing a tights that is too think so much so that the pink, white, red etc thong that she has under it showing (black panty obviously outdated)and then the top that she wears with it is above the waist so that every thing below is exposed and then her top is split down the front, showing her pink, white or red bra. She might very well looks great and expressing herself, so I guess for you it is ok because whether or not she had that on or she was cover up, men will be attracted to her? There is no difference in what they can see and what they have to wonder about. Ill go further, if you see a mature lady, and I am not going to define that because when we see them we know them, wearing the same piece of clothing that I described above, What would your thoughts be? Ohh she is simply expressing herself. I am sorry but I am in no way stepping on the freedom of expression here. We grow up in a moral society with established norms and values even though many is not expressed in the laws. I think we have a responsibility if not to others to the children that we may have to ensure that freedom does not by pass the walls of morality. Maybe one day a designer might make a transparent piece of clothing that will allowed people to walk the street naked while feeling dress and maybe that would be ok given that there is no law...How far should we go? I do believe that your view, though I appreciate your thoughts and comments, is a bit too extreme
ReplyDeleteLooking good is subjective. For a person to say that should not be worn is an imposition of our values and morals upon them. As Christians we understand the principle of modesty n concealment but not everyone are of the same school of thought as we are because of various reasons. Now the question is how brave are we to understand why n where they are coming from and at the same time take the opportunity to educate?
ReplyDeleteWe are unfortunately living in a society that cares less for modesty...and more for nudity
You are right Kayseeya. We cannot stop persons from wearing what they want. It is a given, but does that stop us from educating them? We can take this dress thing in all angles. There are many persons out there who dress a certain way so that they can feel some sort of self worth from persons comments. This can do good or bad. I also dont think this is about pushing Christian principles on people. As I said before I have seen old and young in shorts and they look great, but I am waiting to hear from persons if I am the only one who look at persons and say that piece of clothing does not compliment their body type. I am not saying, do not look good, do not fix up yourself. What medium can we use to guide people into fashion that compliment their body types without infringing on their freedom to dress as they please? Hollywood stars criticize each other's dressing all the time and people listen to them. Christians have a voice too and I think we need to talk. I love looking good and I have wore shorts on the beach and to my honeymoon, but there are certain lengths I would not go. That is just me. I do think there are many persons who are directed in the way they dress by the wrong source and for the wrong reasons and they need proper guidance. Am I wrong in that thinking?
DeleteThanks guys for sharing your point of view. I believe that discussion is very interesting and healthy and I appreciate you taking the time out to share your thoughts. Continue to read and post. Looking forward to your comments
ReplyDeletei think that person should wear clothing that fits their size and should feel comfortable. People these are to caught up in to the latest fashion or style which doesn't suits everyone.
ReplyDeleteI am consider myfelf not fat but fluffy and not every thing that's " in" i will gravitate to clothes that are comfortable and that makes my body looks good... There are clothing that looks good that doesn't require me to display my legs, breast or other body parts...And guys like ladies that dress appropriately...Most time they would tell me not to dress half naked or like a "skank"....
DeleteYou are right...men do look at us and they make their judgement and we can say we dont care what they say we are being us, but the fact is we grow up, we mature and then we want to be accepted as a certain type of person but the image we put forward out there is hard to change. We therefore have to be so careful. I see women with size in shorts and they look great, the short wasn't falling just below their bottom but it complimented their body type and they wear it well. There are clothes out there for women of different sizes that are highly fashionable and would not cause one to look at us and wonder...She doesnt see that is not for her etc
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