Does he/she love me: How can I tell?

How many times have you asked yourself the question, "Does he/she loves me?" I need you to now ask yourself this question, "why am I asking myself that question"

You see asking that question is normal, but there are often reasons that have caused us to be questioning the love of your spouse; maybe we just want to be sure, maybe we are fearful of the level of committment and of being hurt, maybe he/she has cheated. Whatever the case, here are some questions you can asked yourself:

• How does he/she look at you? Based on my personal relationship with my husband, I feel loved every time he looks at me. Sometimes, it feels as if he is saying with his eyes, you are truly the one for me and I am truly blessed and even though you may not be my first, you are definitely my last. 
• Does he/she listen to you? Communication is key in a relationship and even though at the end of a discussion your suggestions might not be taken, you want to know that you were heard and considered. Furthermore, if you have expressed your likes/dislikes for something, a listening spouse will be sure to honour and support your likes and prevent your dislikes as much as possible. He may not always get it right, but he tries to remember what is important to you. 
• Is the conversations one-sided? Is it always about him/her?
• How are you treated in the public and private? Is there any major differences? Is he/she putting on a show?
• Does he/she try there best to remember what are important to you including important dates?
• What are you arguments like? Are they filled with abusive words on how you look or how dumb you are? Does he try to appease you? What happens at the end of the argument? Has he/she ever hit you or raise his hand in an attempt to do that?
• Does he care about you? How is it shown?
• How do you feel with him/her in your life? Is he/she still flirting? Are you flirting? Do you feel fulfilled, not wanting anything even when he/she is not around?
• Has he/she ever cheated? The why is not important here

Remember though these are just some questions that can be used to find out if he/she loves you, to ensure a great and satisfying relationship, you need to ask the same questions to yourself, to find out whether or not you too are in love. Please note if the only reasons that are coming up are physical, then something is wrong. In addition, we are often in the habit of saying things like, he cares about him, he is romantic, he is humorous, but we can never pin point what he has done to show he cares or is romantic and maybe only once or twice we have found something funny to laugh about. A lifelong committment goes beyond the physical for that would pass, no matter how much we dress up. When the physical is not what it use to be, then what? Take a pen and answer the questions above. You shouldn't have to hunt for answers or think to hard, if that is the case, then something is wrong.