Wisdom in Relationship Conversation: 7 REASONS

It is very important that we exercise wisdom in seeking counsel about our relationship. Watch who you talk to. It is not everybody you grow up with or spend a lot of time with, you should talk to about your man. Even if the person is your friend for years. Here are the reasons why:

1. Relationship advice is a serious matter. It may mean the end of the relationship or the betterment of the relationship. If you trust someone to discuss your relationship with them, it means that you might just accept their advice which can be good or bad.
2. Not everyone wants the best for you. Some persons are quick to hear and quick to speak, not only to you, but the many others whom you might not even want to know your business. There are people who pretend that they want to help, when their only interest is gossip. Your business might just spread like wildfire and force a termination on a relationship that might have otherwise survive.
3. You can tarnish the reputation of your spouse and this is very serious especially with Christian couples. If you accuse your spouse of things such as cheating based on suspicions and you discuss this with somebody else, they do not need the evidence. All they need is the suspicion and before you know it, this is what will spread, "you see he playing Christian, he butting/bunning/cheating on his wife." I do not need to tell you how far that can reach. Be very careful who you talk to.
4. The persons with whom we discuss our business with, most times are not trained counselors. Their advice may just be based on their personal experiences and not the facts you have presented to them. If they feel all men are bad/cheaters, then the very essence of their advice will be centred around that. You may hear things like 'girl you can't trust man, I told you so, It is so men stop, They eyes long..."
5. You might not be ready to hear someone take the other party's side. You discussing your relationship does not mean you are right. After presenting the facts, the person from whom you are seeking the advice might just say YOU ARE WRONG. Are you ready to accept that?
6. Sometimes we choose to discuss relationship with certain people without thinking. I do not believe in seeking advice from your own family members about your relationships unless you have proven in the past that they tend to be fair. Again WISDOM. There are certain family members who even if you are dead wrong as we usually say, would not admit that to you. They might instead assist you in cursing or running the man and in extreme cases, beating him.
7. There are some persons out there who are waiting to see your relationship end, believe it or not. They might be your friends and the one who will give you the shoulder to cry on with a smirk on their faces. The same person who told you to dump the man, might just be the one who pick him up and laugh at you. Have you seen relationships where one friend left a guy and the other friend pick him up even though they were close? Don't you think at some point those two friends discussed the man?

Use wisdom in discussing your relationship with others especially if you are aiming for your relationship to last forever. If you are married, it is best you seek professional advice. If  you just need someone to talk to, be very careful who you choose, what you share and how much you share.

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