Orgasm: Should it be real only for men and faked by women

Yesterday, I spent a relaxing day with my friend. In one of our many stimulating and intellectual conversations, we talked about divorce among Christian couples and how poor sexual relationships contribute to it. Although many Christian couples do not enter marriage as virgins, there are many who enter with  limited sexual relationships and many who refused to read and improve their knowledge so that they can have satisfying sexual relationships with each other. 

A part of our conversation was therefore about orgasm and particularly, women's orgasm because most of the time, men have no problem reaching a climax. When I returned home the evening, I started reading. It was amazing that a lot of women have sex out of obligation to their husband and marriage. Some have NEVER achieved an orgasm. Wow!!! I believe some do not even know what one feels like. Others faked it so that the man can stop. Others have become disappointed with their husbands as a result of constant dissatisfaction in sex. While some has divorced,  many have been unfaithful and others remain faithful but suffers internally. You can only imagine some women looking forward for there man to climax so he can get off them or how some call up the rescue word 'headache' so that they would not suffer another moment of boring sex. In addition to all this, is an inability to share with someone what you are going through or be able to talk with other Christian women about spicying up your sex life as, apart from the bed being undefiled, it seems that discussing these things is unholy or should be kept secretive, between the couple no matter how you may suffer. 

Well, let me talk freely about female orgasm. I have no intention of ever faking an orgasm because I do not want my husband to be left with the impression that he is doing something good unless he really is. Studies reveal that it takes the average women 15 to 40 minutes to orgasm. Men take note. It means that you may finish and the woman still want more or she might just be happy that you  are off. Do not think the length of time you stay on her, 'your stamina', is all that matters. When you are finished, what do you do to ensure that she achieves an orgasm? Do you ever stop focusing on yourself and pay attention only to satisfying her? Penetration sex  alone may not achieve orgasm. For many women orgasm lies in foreplay and others can only achieve clittorial orgasm. Also, for some women, you might need to talk to her, (not about the news), to keep her mind consistently on the sex. Throw away the shyness and tell her what you are going to or plan to do to her....Is there anything to stop you from doing this?

If you really want to please your wife, increase your knowledge...READ and TALK.

And Women, please talk also. Instead of focusing on whether or not he cannot finish now or FAKING what could have been a great orgasm, talk to your husband. Tell him what he is doing right or not doing right or where he should concentrate because in fondling around he might hit a nice area or he might just be wasting time at another. When you get married, he was not given a blueprint of all the spots that makes your horny and even with an experienced man, you are still uniquely different.

To end, this article...This is what I know an orgasm to be.  Furthermore, you may feel like every muscle contracting, something inside you want to explode and no matter how you try to stay quiet during sex, at that moment a shout comes from deep within and you just uncontrollably let it out. When you are finished, you would do just like the man, turn and sleep :) because of the level of energy that you just release. People divorce for all kind of reasons, I really do not think bad sex should be one. I also do no think no man or women should be in the marriage suffering from bad sexual relations. My advice...READ and TALK to each other and then TRY some new things.