Whenever someone has an addiction and seek rehabilitation one of the things that they have to come to grip with is a simple statement...I am an addict and I need help. It is all about moving beyond self denial. I have seen a lot of denial and pretense when it comes to love.
You are single seeking a relationship, but somehow things not going as you plan. Maybe you are no longer as in your 20s; you spent a lot of time concentrating on school and a career and now that you want to complete your circle with a husband/wife and kids, you realise you are still single.
Maybe you are younger, but somehow the guys you like never give you the time of day, no one approach you. What to do?
Do not deny yourself love by making this statement, "I do not want no man." Pretending that you are happy with your solitude does not fulfil the vacuum within your heart, the emptiness you feel when you see a happy couple or hear about a loving relationship. Do not suffer under pretense. Wanting someone to love you is not a bad thing, but depression can arise from pretending you don't.
What should you do in the mean time?
- Enjoy dating and outings even if it is with your girlfriends.
- Treat yourself, eat healthy and look attractive. Do not look unavailable when you know you are available and yes...there are some men who do not approach some ladies because they look taken. Remember a confident lady can be intimidating to a man who might be mustering up the strength to ask you out. Try to balance confidence with vulnerability...show yourself as a strong, confident woman who can allow a man to lead.
- Widen your horizon. Your spouse might not be in your church, your community or even your island. When you save, feel free to move around, travel and enjoy new scenery.
Who to love you? There is someone out there.
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