Many persons find out about their WRONG CHOICE/S when it is too late. How you choose a boyfriend or girlfriend is often dependent on whether you want a long term or short-term (flirt) relationship. Keep in mind also that a person choosing you, is making the same decision of whether they want a long term or short term relationship. I would like to concentrate here on persons who want a long term relationship.
What is serious is the factors that determine how you make that choice and I would focus my information on what I have experienced or observed. These are some of the factors that determine who a person choose:
- What their parents have to say
- The status of the person and their family background
- How attractive he or she is
- How much money they make or have the potential to make
- Employment status and type of job
- How attracted you are to the other person
- Simply being in love...the feelings you can't explain
And I can go on....I wrote those not to say they are bad, but they can be if not carefully analyze. Read on to see why.
I have seen relationships discontinued because of what parents have to say. It is not that their input is not important, but it is not always right. Some parents, in not wanting their girl child to have the same life they had,will discourage them from being with a poor, uneducated man despite he cares dearly for their daughter. On the hand, they may go as far as forcing her on a rich, high status man who they believe can fulfill her every need. Sad to say, there are MANY situations where women have all their needs met that money can buy except the very one they truly need, but cannot be bought, LOVE! There are young ladies out there, who have recognized all the faults with their wealthy, high status, well-spoken, big house, good family, high educational status boyfriend day after day after day, but will continue to bear those faults because that is whom they want to marry, that is whom can give them the life they so greatly desire. At least that is what they think until they get the life and realise money cannot buy happiness.
The status of no man was never important to me,but their AMBITION is. I never mind struggling to accomplish my dreams, but I never want a man in my life or the life of my family that is downright lazy and to add to that poor. Poor and lazy is not a good mix. If you are poor, that is ok, we can work on getting rich, but if you are lazy too, then who will work? So it is often important that you look at the person carefully, They love you, you love them, but you are saying...jeez is only primary school they went (you say that when you have high school or cape education) or is only high school they went (you say that when you have university education) or they are just a bag boy or a van conductor, but you care dearly for each other. What should deter you is if that primary education etc man or woman have no desire to further their studies (even as simple as getting a skill) or that bag boy don't desire to own the supermarket after moving up the chain or that van conductor does not plan on owning a van before having his own company of vans with people working with him...
Think of your own situation or maybe a friend's...Why have you choose your spouse? Are you just lucky to have a rich man who loves you and whom you love because that can happen and if it does hurray to you, but if its only about the money then something is wrong. There are a lot more I can say, but then it will may result in a book.
Instead, I have embedded this video below from Trinidad singer Mighty Sparrow, NO MONEY NO LOVE. It is a very interesting calypso and it speaks to choice. If the man is not working when you met him and his chances of finding a job is nil given other factors or he is not even looking, but intend to sponge off you, be careful the choice you make.
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